Premature Ejaculation Sex Therapy
Do You Ejaculate Sooner Than You Want?
Premature or rapid ejaculation can create enormous pressure around sex.
You may worry about disappointing your partner, rush to control your arousal or become so focused on lasting longer that sex stops being enjoyable.
Some men eventually avoid intimacy altogether.
At Intimacy Counselling NZ, we provide confidential sex therapy for men experiencing difficulties with ejaculation, sexual confidence and performance anxiety.
The Pressure to "Last Longer"
When sex becomes focused on how many minutes intercourse lasts, it can become a performance rather than a shared sexual experience.
Worry can increase arousal and make control even more difficult.
Sex therapy shifts the focus away from passing or failing a sexual test and towards understanding arousal, pleasure, communication and control.
How Sex Therapy Can Help
Therapy may involve:
Understanding your arousal pattern
Recognising changes in arousal earlier
Reducing performance anxiety
Developing sexual awareness
Changing rushed sexual patterns
Communication with your partner
Broadening sexual activities beyond penetration
Developing confidence
Couple-based exercises where appropriate
Where ejaculation difficulties are new, unexplained or accompanied by other symptoms, medical assessment may also be recommended.
Sex Doesn't Have to Be a Performance
A satisfying sexual relationship is about considerably more than how long penetration lasts.